Does marrying a virgin guarantee that you are going to have a great marriage? Does virginity affect marriage? Does virginity matter in a relationship? Do virgins make a good wife? Is virginity dignity or lack of opportunity? All these questions and many more run through the mind of people when it comes to the issue of virginity.
Sadly enough, there are lots of story and write-ups making rounds on social media that discourage virgins and make light the issue of virginity. I recently come across many of such posts where someone posted a write-up claiming that being a virgin is no big deal, virginity does not mean you have character, most virgins have terrible attitudes, etc.
Our society today has made light matters that used to carry high value in our culture due to civilization. Does marrying a virgin guarantee that you are going to have a great marriage? Should virgins be held in high esteem? Is virginity dignity or lack of opportunity? This post will answer these questions.
Do Virgins Have Better Marriages
Virgins posses 5 distinct qualities that set them apart from non-virgins. Looking at these qualities will help answer the question of whether virginity is important in a marriage or not.
1. Virgins Possess Ability to Delay Gratification
So everyone has sexual urges (trust me, you will have it if you are normal) but virgins have mastered the art of putting theirs under control. If you are a non-virgin you know that urge you feel at a certain period in the month if you are female: virgins have those urges too!
When they are around those that are deeply in love with, they have the same feeling of expressing their love in a physical way but because they have decided to stand by their decision to remain chaste they have to constantly fight their feelings. If this is not commendable I wonder what is.
2. Virgins Have the Right Friends
There is this saying that “show me your friend and I will tell you who you are” Most virgins have friends with similar resolution to remain chaste. You can imagine the friends that they would have to shed because they do not belong to their clique, and the stigma they would have to endure from people that think they are odd or awkward to be around.
Nobody stays virgin by moving around with the wrong friends, at least if you are marrying a virgin you will be assured that there is no wayward friend around the corner ready to give her wrong advice that will destroy her home. This in itself is commendable; so many homes have been destroyed because of friends who think the wife can find joy in extra-marital affairs.
3. Virgin Are Great Role Models
Parents are expected to lead by examples and likes begat likes. A woman that kept herself till marriage is less likely to have wayward children. Women who were chaste before marriage are more likely to transfer those virtues to their children.
It takes self-discipline, dedication, and principle for a woman to remain chaste till her late twenties, such woman who can stick to her resolution to wait for sex can raise children who can delay gratification in life
4. Virgins are Focused
So many ladies have lost their vision in life just because they discover sex too soon too early. Such ladies go wild at the taste of the forbidden fruit and keep giving sex as an incentive to induce love in a relationship.
In a world where sex is attached to anything, from getting jobs to getting good grades, stable relationship, etc a woman that is able to hold on to her chastity should be commended.
Such ladies usually are determined to get through life by her own effort and commitment and rarely waiver when confronted with daunting challenges.
5. Virgins Are Pure
Virginity symbolizes purity, and such ladies find favor in the sight of God. In the Bible, Priests are being mandated to marry virgins and they are the delight of kings. The story of Esther in the book of Esther comes to mind when the king is to replace his proud queen fair virgins were sought for.
It was an abomination for a damsel to get married without her virginity intact in the bible, virginity is also held in high esteem in most cultures. Pure virgin brides symbolize completeness and grooms cannot hide their joy as they rejoice in being the first to unwrap the beautiful gift.
This post is not to condemn ladies that have lost their virginity in one way or the other, it is to correct the impression carried my many in the modern world today that virginity is lack of opportunity or an eyesore.
Am blessed mama, virginity is a great advantage especially the urge for sex that it reduces.
ReplyDeleteRemain blessed. Virgins have normal sexual urges just that they have found a way to put their urges under control. Their body is not in charge, rather they allow the Holy Spirit to stay in charge dictating the operations of the flesh.
ReplyDeleteSure that's right the holy spirit is in control 🙏
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