So you met
this amazing person, he/she is the partner you have always dreamt of; the
chemistry is great and you constantly have a longing to make that person yours,
but sadly enough, the person never gave you a glance.
You begin to
try harder to be noticed, you lose weight and you are always thinking about
ways to make that person yours, then one day you realize the shocking truth
that the person never noticed you because he/she is eyeing somebody else.
Pains Of One-Sided Crush
One-sided
crush relationship can hurt terribly, it can make you lose appetite for food
and kill your desire to be yourself because you constantly want to become
another person so that you can be noticed; the bad news is that it can get
worse!
Below are
the dangers of one-sided crush:
1. One-sided Crush destroys self-esteem
One-sided
crush makes you conclude that you are unlovable because a certain person is
fool enough not to realize your worth. I constantly tell Singles to date who is
dating them, and try to love who loves them because it is a ticket to happiness.
Your crush
will never love you because he/she is busy loving someone else and it has
nothing to do with whether you are valuable or not. We attach value to people
and things we desire, I am sure someone is out there thinking you are the best
thing since sliced bread.
2. One-sided crush destroys your health
Constant
erratic heartbeat when you are seeing the person with someone else and the intense pain of feeling unwanted is bad for your health. You lose sleep
fantasizing about the person, you have a conversation with the person in your
head several times but cannot muster the courage to express yourself when you
finally, meet the person; all these can make your health deteriorate.
A merry
heart is medicinal, so you need to get back your life and love yourself again.
Stop waiting for a one-sided crush to validate your worth; stop thinking you
don’t deserve to be loved because of your flaws.
3. One-Sided crush is a time waster
So you spend
years loving someone that does not love you, dating someone that is not dating
you hereby being in a relationship all by yourself? This can place an invisible
barrier in your heart. You don’t want to date someone else because you are
eternally waiting for your crush to ask you out.
Stop
justifying one-sided relationship by consoling yourself with the fact that it
is better to love than to be loved; there is nothing more satisfying than being
in a fulfilling relationship.
The bottom line
is that you have to get over that One-sided crush, you have to get back your
life, you deserve to be loved and happy. Don’t become friends with benefit to
your crush hoping that he/she will make the move to date you one day, don’t make
serious financial commitment to a man/woman just to impress him/her to date
you.
You have got
to save your own heart all by yourself! Stop waiting for someone else to preach
to you to stop wasting your life! Being in a fulfilling relationship has lots
of benefits, love is a gift; stop trying to induce it!
Thanks for
reading this wonderful post about dangers in a One-sided crush. I am Sarah Subomi Olaoye, a blogger, Author, and relationship counselor. I love to hear from my
readers, kindly drop me a mail on Singlesclass2014@gmail.com or follow me on Facebook here.
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