PRICE TO PAY FOR HARMONIOUS RELATIONSHIP
Forget about Hollywood and Bollywood, forget about Korean films and Fairy tales, harmonious relationship is not free; it comes with a price tag. Everyone wants to have a harmonious relationship filled with oneness and devoid of discord and conflict but not everyone is ready to pay for it; are you ready to pay? It does not happen by luck, chance, or magic, there is a price and you can’t have it without paying so here is what it takes to get it:
TIME
You cant just plant a seed and leave it, expecting it to
grow on its own. You have to tend to it, uproot the weeds, water it and build
an hedge around it so that intruders cannot just trespass and uproot, all these
take time. Building harmonious relationship can be likened to these; you have
to spend quality time together to grow your relationship. Study your partner;
know his/her likes and dislikes and what make your partner happy or sad. Know
your partner to the extent that you will know the reason behind every argument.
Is your partner possessive because he/she fears losing you? Then your partner
needs lot of love and affirmation.
GIVING
Giving is one of the signs of true love. Even God showed His
love by giving his only son. To achieve harmonious relationship you have to
give up your pride and ego. Most times, it requires you to give yourself away
to find it again. You also have to spend and be spent. Give from your pocket
and your heart. There is no romance without finance; buy your partner gifts
that he/she will love, it doesn't have to be expensive. Being Stingy can destroy your relationship,
so learn the act of giving: give your love, give your time and attention and
give gifts to cultivate affection.
SERVICE
Only two slaves can achieve harmonious relationship. Yes, a
relationship is a SHIP, two captains will capsize it, a captain and a slave
will bring resentment and contempt but two selfless slaves will deck it
smoothly. You have to serve one another in humility, nobody is superior to the
other, you should be equal and precious in each other’s eyes. So, respect each
other, tolerate each other and serve each other. Be humble enough to apologize
when you need to and accept each other’s apology.
TOLERANCE
Your experience, family background and environment contributed
to who you are so no two people can be the same. Tolerate what you can’t change
about your partner, all these little habits that irritate you can be painted
with the eyes of love and made to look better. You can’t change your partner so
quit nagging but you can help him/her with love. Understand your partner and be
ready to accept him/her with those flaws. Come to think of it, you aren't
perfect either, your partner just think you are perfect because he/she is
looking at you with the eyes of love , it is time to reciprocate that.
PATIENCE
You can’t plant a seed today and eat its fruit today, Rome
isn't built in a day so be ready to be patient. Don’t be too in a hurry to
achieve harmony and don’t compare your partner or relationship with that of
your friends, you don’t know what is
really happening in their relationship. Love is patient and it suffers long. Be
ready to invest in your relationship and don’t leave for another person to reap
the fruit of your labor; be patient enough to reap what you sowed!
