LIES MEN TELL IN RELATIONSHIPS
There are good guys out there that know how to treat a lady right; they have a mature approach towards relationships. It’s not just a game to them or an avenue to satisfy their selfish desire; their girl can go to sleep with the assurance that they will still be there when she wakes up in the morning. But these kinds of guys are getting fewer everyday as the world is getting more civilized; guys don’t want to settle down into matrimony and build a home. Some guys sees relationships as a game, they lie, cheat, deceive and commit many atrocities in the name of love and the number of ladies suffering from heartaches attest to this fact. So here are the common lies men tell in relationships and the not so common ones.
#L1#SHE IS JUST A DISTRACTION, YOU ARE THE REAL ONE
Yeah! He will keep telling this one as long as you believe
it. So you discovered he has another side attraction? The girl is hot and he
has been cheating with her and he thinks you are such a drama queen when you
tell him he is hurting you? He will keep cajoling you to just leave the other
girl and focus on the relationship because she doesn’t matter, she is just a
fling and you are the real thing. What he isn’t telling you is that she does
matter a lot and for her to come into his life it means you are either out of
it or on your way out. Cheating doesn’t just mean he couldn’t handle the temptation;
it is also a sign that something is wrong with the relationship. You should not
simply overlook it if you are in an exclusive and committed relationship with
him, this is not a time for him to get distracted and channel his energy into
another relationship when he should be thinking of making an honest woman out
of you. You have every right to demand for faithfulness if you have been
faithful to your relationship.
#L2#I NEED SOME TIME ALONE
A man might take some time and
space to make major decisions but if it is taking him more than a month to get
back to you, it might be his way of breaking up with you. I am not a kill joy,
believe me, if he suddenly wants to go solo and he is staying incommunicado for
weeks there must be something fishy going on. The worst mistake you can make is
to stay passive hoping he will sort himself out one day and come back to you;
this is your life for crying out loud! I am not saying you should have a panic
attack and start throwing tantrums, take charge of your life and investigate
carefully: pay him a surprise visit, ask for advice from his friends and take
decisions based on the information you have. Give him a few weeks and call him
again and hold a sensible discussion on your relationship, ask him if he has
been able to make a decision and ask if there is another woman involved. If he tells
you he still need more time after a month tell him to make the breakup
official, if he jumps at the advice, maybe that’s what he has been trying to
communicate to you all along.
#L3# WE ARE JUST CLOSE, THERE IS
NOTHING BETWEEN US
If your guy has a very close
friend of the opposite sex that he refuse to share with you and both of you are
in a committed relationship, maybe you should be worried. He told you she is
just a friend and she is always in his house at night, she picks your call when
you call him, he uses her picture as DP on social media and even his family
knows her more than you, you have to really wake up now. Love shouldn’t make
you a fool, the moment both of you decided to be in an exclusive and committed
relationship you should be ready to share friends. If he went as far as
comparing you with his so called girlfriend and he is always talking about her
when he is with you, you have a big problem in your relationship. Don’t be
scared to open up and take your place in his life, if you are so afraid of
losing him that you keep quiet, there is a possibility that you have already
lost him. Tell him about your insecurities and if he dismissed them as
unimportant or he even tells you he met her before you and he can’t afford to
lose her just tell him to marry her instead.
#L4# I WANT TO MARRY YOU, BUT CAN
WE HAVE AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP FOR NOW?
Hey! Wake up! When the door is
open you can go out anytime you want. Guys understand what open relationships
mean more than girls so they feed you with lies and use the word as an escape
clause. When he wants to leave and you remind him of his promise to marry you
later, you will hear words like ‘what do you expect? It’s an open
relationship’. Open relationship is an avenue to get sex and other benefits of
an exclusive relationship without the accompanying responsibilities. Don’t ever
go into an open relationship with a guy unless you are suicidal or you are also
out to get sex alone. There is no guarantee of marriage or the security of long
term relationship that you crave. Don’t listen to the lies that this is the 21st
century and anything goes, it has more benefit for the man than the woman. If
you are in an open relationship know that there is the probability that you
will fall hard for him and need him to stay, and that may be the time he wants
to move on, you can’t hold him down because you don’t have the right to.
#L5#LETS NOT MEET YOUR PARENT NOW
TILL WE’VE SAVED ENOUGH
So what if he is not financially
stable now? He said he is saving to get married to you and he is yet to meet
any of your family and vice versa? He might be conning you. Don’t be even
foolish enough to accept an engagement ring from him and assume the title of a
fiancee without meeting his parent. The first step that will show that he is
serious about marrying you is not the ring, it is taking you home. Don’t ever
believe it if he tells you he is an orphan, he did not fall from the sky, he
will at least have relatives and a guardian. The truth is that, some girls can
be so blind that they can’t see the truth even if it pokes them in the face.
Don’t wear his ring and scare other guys off when your parent hasn’t seen him
before. Meet his parent and let him meet yours and be assured that both of them
approve before waiting for him to make enough money to support you in marriage
or else he might just make the money and use it to take another woman to the
altar.
#L6# I’VE BROKEN UP WITH HER, I
JUST DON’T WANT TO HURT HER
Well! Well! Well! Don’t be among
those girls that live in denial and later get to tell tales that touches the
heart in the tabloid. He claimed he had broken up with her a long time ago and
she is still sending him a romantic text? Why do you keep listening to his lies
when he said he is just looking for a gentle way to let her down? Can’t just
face the truth for your heart’s sake? I have heard the tale several times that
I even get tired of hearing it. Some guys that impregnated their ex claimed it
is just a one last fling before they part way, well, tell that to the fishes. If
his ex is still very much active in his life you might just be the one that
will get hurt eventually. Tell him to choose who he wants to be with and don’t
hesitate to get out while your heart can still take the fall. If she ever call
you to leave her guy alone and your guy is not doing anything to stop the
threats from coming, maybe she is right, he still belongs to her.
