WHAT YOU NEED TO BUILD A STABLE AND LASTING RELATIONSHIP
Building a stable and lasting relationship is every woman’s dream and
every man’s aim. It might sound like a myth but there is something called
Lasting relationship, a kind of relationship that gives security and comfort. I
know you want to build that kind of relationship with your partner, deep down;
you want to know that no matter what happens you can always rely on each other
and exit is not an option. You can make it happen, it all depends on how you
build your relationship, use these materials and watch your relationship stand
the test of time:
TRUST
The importance of trust in a relationship cannot be
over-emphasized. Can your partner trust you? When the chips are down can
you be relied on not to break his/her heart? When your partner knows that
he/she can always trust you, then he\she can be committed to building a lasting
relationship with you. You might not be able to change your partner now but let
the change start with you. The rule of not putting all your eggs in a basket
does not apply to a stable relationship. You are not going to marry more than
one person at a time so Love them one at a time.
COMMITMENT
You need commitment to build a lasting relationship, what
are you doing with someone you don’t plan to marry? Don’t play with people’s
emotion it might bounce back on you. People that are fond of dating for fun
suffer the consequence later in life, because, when they are ready to settle
down they end up in the hands of a player like them who will play with them and
later dump them. Imagine how you will feel when you discover that someone you
are serious about is only out to use you, don’t do to others what you don’t
want to be done to you. Let your partner
know upfront how you feel about him/her and the relationship and both of you
can play for keep.
INTIMACY
Many partners are bed mates but are not soul mates; they end
up becoming married strangers. Can your partner confide in you? Are you the
first person he/she calls when in problem? What do you know about your
partner’s past? Both of you must be open with each other. You partner must be
ready to confide in you and vice versa for your relationship to stand the test
of time. Intimacy is not all about sex, there is a way both of you can get
naked without getting naked. Knowing each other’s heartfelt desire, pain,
passion, dream, vision etc will set you on the part to true intimacy.
EMPATHY
There is not just sympathy in a healthy and lasting
relationship, there is also empathy. You must understand each other’s pain and
feel it like your own. Empathy builds intimacy; don’t criticize your partner
for his\her actions without understanding the reasons behind it. For instance,
don’t criticize and fight your partner for calling his\her ex when you are not
always available. Was it because you are always busy and he/she was engulfed by
loneliness and needed friendship? Are you always present but unavailable
emotionally? Is your partner even scared of pouring his\her heart to you
because of the fear of criticism? Treating your partner the way you want to be
treated will help you build a lasting relationship together.
FORGIVENESS
You will always wrong each other as humans; don’t expect
your partner to be perfect when you are not. Stop the habit of dating five people in five
years, rather, you should settle down with one person and forgive him\her five
times. Apart from cheating, having an addiction and being abusive you should
learn to tolerate and manage the imperfection of your partner. Come to think of
it, there are some annoying things you do that your partner is overlooking
because of love too. Also, don’t forgive your partner and still harbor
resentment, it will eat you up and destroy your relationship.
If you build your relationship with these solid materials,
you can be sure that it will stand the test of time. Have you met the man\woman
of your dream? Then take steps to ensure that your relationship lasts for as
long as both of you live. Hey! I didn’t mention love because I assume you have
lots of that already. I wish you best of luck in building the type of lasting
relationship you desire.
