Women
tend to lose their heads when they are in love. They are so ecstatic that they
ignore danger signals even when they bump into it. Many red flags flying in
front of you seem trivial compared to the intense love you feel but you are
going to wish you have taken time to read this someday. So, save your time and
energy by reading this you are going to be glad you did.
THE EXPERT LIAR
This type of men hardly
gets caught and when they are, they simply tell another lie to get out of it.
But women have an advantage over men, God gave us a six sense called intuition,
men can’t beat that. As a woman, we often ignore our intuition when we are
deeply in love. Most women often utter words like ‘I knew it! Something kept
telling me something is fishy’ when they discover that love has actually
blinded them to some dangerous truth about the man they are dating. Some men
have the advantage of experience and you can’t catch them red handed but if
you have been getting a black hand for
some time, don’t wait till it turns red! Some men are not that lucky, they mess
up and end up being caught several times, if you are dating that type of man,
it is time for you to count yourself lucky and run! If he tells you he is in a
meeting and you mistakenly bump into him in a bar having lunch with a lady,
borrow wisdom, stay out of his sight and give him a call again, if he claims he
is still in that meeting in his office, well, that one comes with a label
tagged “EXPLOSIVE”. Don’t be too much in love that you think telling lies means
he cares about your feelings and doesn’t want to hurt you. It is better to hurt
someone with the truth than to make them happy with a lie.
THE SKILLED FLIRT
Women just love him and
crumble at his feet and you think it is not his fault that he is extremely
charming? Women just love being around him and every woman is his sweetheart or
angel and you think it is just his personality, please tell your brain to come
back from vacation. I know you think it is harmless and he will stop once he
marry you, let’s keep praying for a miracle. If he is not making a living out
of it, then he shouldn’t enjoy doing it that frequently because many women can
take it more serious than he intend and it can spell trouble for you. Some men
usually do it out of habit but that
doesn’t mean it is a good habit. Before you stay committed to the relationship,
ask yourself if you can cope with the number of women around him now and if you
can keep tolerating it once you are married, please can you just ponder on the
fact that he sees your continue love, devotion and tolerance of the act as
acceptance and permission to continue. A real
woman is not jealous and possessive but if you have to keep telling
yourself ‘ it is harmless, he will change, he will get tired of this and
discover I am the woman he needs… then maybe you should run
THE DRAMA KING
When he gets angry it
looks pretty much like an action movie with plenty of suspense, intrigue and
mass destruction of what he sees as the enemy at the time, well, you deserve an
award of the suicide queen for staying in that kind of relationship. It doesn’t
matter if he hasn’t hit you yet and he apologizes for all the terrible things
he says later, I still think you are trying to commit suicide. An abusive man
cannot change overnight, if he adds a little kicking or just slapping to that,
you are done for, it doesn’t matter what he usually does to make up later. Like
seriously, how can an educated woman like you (I assume you are if you can read
this write up) call abuse Love or be dating a civilized lunatic ( he needs to
be committed, believe me). You should be getting help for him and staying as
far away from him as possible. Any man that can hit a woman under any kind of
provocation needs help not love and you shouldn’t even be the one helping him,
Get him a psychiatrist! Or better still a counselor. No matter how skilled he
is in bed or the amount of money and beautiful things he gives to you, he is
still going to kill you later. So get out while you are still alive to do so
and run while you still have legs.
THE INDECISIVE MAN
This type of man can’t
decide if he wants to be in a relationship or not and usually call for a
breakup over trivial matters. If your man has broken up with you more than
thrice already, maybe you should be the one doing the next one and make it
final. If he avoids talking about the relationship maybe there is not one to
begin with. Don’t be the only one fighting for the relationship; the journey is
too long to walk alone. Besides, you shouldn’t be the one begging for his love
or trying to get him to stay committed. If he doesn’t want the relationship and
thinks it is just something to pass out time, nothing you do or say will change
his mind, not even getting pregnant for him. Don’t turn yourself into a sex toy
because you just want him to stay, don’t be the only one announcing in the
social media that you are in a relationship. It takes two to make a
relationship work, give him a little time and if he is still dragging his feet
then be the first to walk away, If he wants you, he will come after you.
THE AFFECTION STINGY ONE
Some men don’t like PDA
(public display of affection) but if he takes it to the extreme, just ditch him.
What are you doing with a man that has never said ‘I Love You’ to you before?
You think he is taking his time and trying to find out if you are real? If he
hasn’t found for over six month, maybe he will never find out. Be with someone
that will be proud of being with you, someone that will love to be seen with
you, not a man that thinks it is embarrassing to talk to you in public. You
might think you can tolerate it now and you will make up for his mistakes but
what will happen if you eventually marry him? You want to be married to a man
that cannot even wear the same aso ebi with you? Or God Forbid, a man that only
acknowledge with a nod across the room. If he needs orientation, let him get it
now before you marry him and not after when he doesn’t have anything to lose if
he doesn’t. And If he is not saying I Love you after the couple of years you
have spent together maybe he just doesn’t feel it. And who says its okay if he
is not caring if he has a lot of money? You are marrying the man and not his
money and if he doesn’t have time for you now, I don’t need a crystal to
foretell that you have a lonely marital life ahead of you.
THE MAMA’S BOY
If every of his words
starts with mummy said then you are in trouble. If his mother is controlling
your relationship now what will she do with your marriage? I know you are not
going to marry the mother but don’t expect her to just disappear after your
marriage to her son. Acknowledge that
she is important in your man’s life and always will be, be respective and
courteous to her but if she has her hand in everything in your man’s life and
is the one making the decision then he doesn’t need you. If he tells you no
woman can ever measure up to his mother
and that you can’t be that precious no matter how hard you try, maybe you
should just let him marry her. A real man knows how to handle his mother and
takes advises from her in making decision not leaving the decision making
process to her. If she tells you that you are not good enough for her son,
maybe she is right because she is the one in charge of defining what “Good”
means. Don’t do things you hate just to be accepted by her, you might end up
doing it for the rest of your life. If she threatens you and your man think you
should do whatever mummy says, please get out while you still can.
THE CHEAT
He kept repenting and
pleading for another chance and you think the weakness will just disappear
after marriage? You need a magic wand to make it disappear. Spend the time you
suppose to spend looking for a good divorce lawyer to borrow wisdom now. If he
cheated once label him “likely to bring grief in marriage” if he has done it
twice please don’t even think twice about ditching him because he just removed
the likely, he is a disaster waiting to happen period! A wise girl once caught
her man sleeping with her best friend; she ditched the man and kept that
friend. You might think she is crazy but her friend saved her a lot of
heartache in the future. If her so called fiancé can sleep with her best friend
behind her back then he won’t be able to resist the secretary, maid, waiter and
other casual women he will meet later in the future after marriage. If your man
has been cheating on you and you are still in that relationship expecting him
to get tired of chasing skirts and settle down with you one day you might just
be setting yourself up for disaster.
Having read all this, I
believe you have borrowed some wisdom, go for the real thing and not just what
look like it. Sincerely, every lady deserves to have a man that will make her
happy today and stand by her tomorrow. You don’t deserve an heartbreak or a
relationship filled with depression and uncertainty, so, let’s be an advocate
for love without tears. Don’t court a loser or he will make you one in the
future.